Bibi is VITA certified Love, Sex and Relationship coach, certified Erotic Blueprint coach, holistic sexuality international speaker and energetic lovemaking guide. She has presented her trailblazing, disruptive approach to sexuality throughout the world; including events like Mindvalley Summit and A-Fest, Summit LA, YPO and EO forums, and publications like Vogue, Elle Magazine, Marie Claire and Conde Nast. Her heart-opening and taboo-crushing courses create spaces for conversation and plant seeds for exploration of conscious sexuality.
Through her offerings of online courses, group workshops, speaking engagements, lectures and one on one work, in both English and Spanish, she reached over 150,000 people. She serves clients from around the world in their transformation to both thriving single individuals and loving couples.
Read our exclusive interview with Bibi as she reveals intimacy hacks, sensuality secrets, holistic pleasure tips, and expert advice on understanding your body.
1. Can you share a bit about your journey? What inspired you to become a holistic pleasure and intimacy coach?
For 15 years, I was playing it small. I was stuck in the corporate world, confined to a conforming gray suit and a small cubicle, endlessly repeating sales tactics I had been trained so well to execute. My authentic self was hiding. My true genius—creativity and unique expression—was suppressed, and my soul was slowly withering. From the confusion and despair of this life came a midlife crisis, which finally gave me the courage to leave.
If I had to choose the most impactful moment of my life, it would be, without a doubt, my first full body orgasm. It was an awakening, a breakthrough that marked a before and after in my life. I found a new reference point—a soul-deep realization that reshaped my entire existence. After that, I couldn’t go back to my old ways of having sex or living my daily life.
In the bedroom, I began experiencing spontaneous, hours-long orgasmic states.
Outside the bedroom, I lost all interest in trying to fit into the mold for financial security. I found the courage to pursue my passion—to own it, speak it boldly, and build a successful company around it.
I started sharing my experience. I stood on stages, speaking to hundreds of people about pleasure, energetic lovemaking, and demonstrating energy orgasms live. Not only did my radiance blossom, but my creativity also exploded. I embraced my personal style and creativity, becoming a style icon who magnetized opportunities. The more authentically me I became, the louder my orgasms, the bolder my workshops, and the more people are drawn to my work.
People started returning with their own stories—of spontaneous energy awakenings, profound orgasms, the best lovemaking of their lives, and an entirely new sense of empowerment.
They wanted to know more. This is why I’m here today.
2. How do you define holistic pleasure, and why is it important in today’s world?
We completely underestimate the power of pleasure. We don’t give it enough credit, attention, or practice—and we miss out on how truly life-changing it can be.
Conscious and intentional pleasure practices can:
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Calm, soothe, relax, and regulate your nervous system
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Invite self-acceptance, compassion, and true self-love
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Embody sensuality and awaken your feminine radiance
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Activate your body, pleasure spots, and 0rg@$mic capacity
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Awaken kundalini energy for spiritual growth
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Rewire neural pathways for greater worthiness and confidence
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Manifest more magic into your life
So I am not talking about shallow, short term gratification approach to pleasure. And I don’t mean shallow, fleeting pleasure thrills. I’m talking about pleasure that’s healing, nourishing, regenerative, empowering, awakening, energizing, and transformational.
3. What are some common misconceptions about intimacy and pleasure that you encounter in your work?
First misconception is that for great intimacy we need a partner. Self-pleasure is such an underrated and under-utilized tool for pleasure, epic orgasms, but also energetic activation, spiritual awakening, manifestation, creativity, empowerment and radiance.
I know what’s possible—yet most women don’t tap into even 5% of its potential.
Another common one is that with age women reach an expiration date and that with menopause sex life is over. I wish more women would know that it is a lie and that in their 60 or 70s, they can absolutely thrive! What changes is the type of intimacy we crave, moving away from more fiery, reproductive and friction-oriented sex to more oceanic, slower, energetic and connected sex.
There is so many more but I will complete the list with the third one, which is that we are either good lovers or not. Lovemaking is a skill that can be practices and improved. There is so much to learn from our anatomy to erotic blueprints, types of conscious touch, so many different types of orgasms. So yes, it is absolutely possible to up level your intimate life intentionally.
4. For those new to exploring self-intimacy, what are your top tips for deepening their relationship with pleasure?
Start with yourself! Get to know your body through intentional, slow, exploratory self-pleasure practices. It doesn’t matter whether you’re in a relationship or not.
Imagine two guitar players who want to perform a beautiful duet, yet neither of them has ever played the guitar. What kind of concert would that be? This is exactly what happens in our society. Many people have never truly explored their own bodies—without shame, without the pursuit of instant gratification, and without the influence of pornography.
Instead, set intentions, bring sacredness into the practice, and treat it as an act of self-love. Be present with each moment-to-moment sensation. Incorporate breath and sound, allowing yourself to make love to your own body with curiosity and an exploratory mindset.
5. What are some fun, unexpected ways for couples to reignite their spark, and how can they communicate their needs and desires in a safe, empowering way?
For me the first thing here is changing the understanding of SPARK. I witness so many partnerships fall apart over the loss of spark, flame, or "chemistry." Modern dating, heavily influenced by Hollywood romance and sitcom dramas, has convinced us that the intensity of our feelings should be the indicator for a relationship's validity. We expect to feel intense, passionate emotions and in absence of such feelings suggests it's not meant to be. Infatuation is like a spark that starts a fire, meant to last just long enough for babies to come into the picture. But that spark doesn’t guarantee a forever kind of love. Sadly, often as the excitement fades, many find their relationship doesn’t have what it takes to last.
People often want a love that lasts a lifetime, but the initial rush of feelings isn’t a reliable guide nor for long-term connection neither for erotic aliveness. That’s because the rush is meant to be brief.
I believe true connection goes deeper than just feeling good together; it’s about being good for each other over the long haul. When two people really fit, their relationship gets stronger over time. So does the lovemaking! They put in the work, they grow together, and they build something that can stand the test of time, in and out of the bedroom.
This kind of lasting bond and erotic charge goes beyond the rush of early romance!
Putting in the effort doesn't have to mean fixating on issues with a couples therapist; on the contrary, it can be a proactive, loving, and exciting experience. So for me the best way is to focus on learning new skills, experiencing new ways of connecting, before you get bored. Doing it proactively. With the variety of options available today it can be anything from attending week long retreat to months long online course.
That is where you also learn so much around communicating needs and desires. I teach my clients to start every session with that. They create a safe space from physical setting to emotional and mental connection. From there they follow a set of questions they both answer like: what do you appreciate about me, what are you yearning for today, what is something you are not open for today.
6. What are some natural ways to relax and enhance arousal?
My favorites are all the natural supplements now available on the market that help you relax, get into your body, and awaken arousal. More and more brands are coming out with their own blends—all natural ingredients, delicious flavors, and sleek, sexy packaging.
One of my personal top choices is Sacral Chai. It has everything I love in one box: six powerful aphrodisiacs that enhance arousal and get you in the mood, like Clavo Huasca, damiana, and blue lotus.
It’s easy, it works, and it’s become my go-to for setting the tone on dates with a ritual of intention and connection.
7. What are some powerful daily rituals for fostering more sensuality and connection, both with oneself and with a partner?
Becoming more attuned to our senses.
It might sound simple, but if we’re honest with ourselves, how often do we truly pay attention to something as basic as smell or touch? Can we slow down and become aware of subtle sensations without constantly chasing overstimulation and peak experiences?
That pause and awareness allow subtle sensations to become increasingly enjoyable—and even orgasmic.
In my private sessions, once clients are fully relaxed and surrendered, they often experience deep pleasure from something as delicate as the soft touch of a feather or the sound of a single song.
I love to laser-focus on each specific sense—smell, touch, sound—because it allows us to savor it even more.
8. What are some of your favorite holistic practices to naturally boost pleasure hormones such as dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins?
Intentional, conscious self-pleasure practice.
9. What’s one practice or mindset shift that has personally transformed your own relationship with pleasure and well-being?
If I had to choose one, it’s the self-pleasure practice using a crystal wand. It’s one of the most powerful holistic tools for healing, releasing tension, activating new orgasmic spots, and deepening the connection with your internal landscape.
I find it especially important given the huge trend of promoting vibrators. To me, vibrators offer a kind of pleasure that’s the equivalent of a fast-food drive-thru, while a crystal wand creates an experience more like a nourishing, farm-to-table, sophisticated meal.
It brings a sense of sacredness, slowness, and ritual to self-pleasure—and I believe it’s a must for all women.
For more tips on holistic pleasure and intimacy tips, follow Bibi Brzozka's wellness journey on her Instagram: @planetbibi.
